Help Your Gamer Regain Control of Life
I help parents get on the same page with their gamers faster – and cheaper – than any therapy or family counseling regimen. Because the hard work is on you, the parent. And, make no mistake, this is hard work.
I know what you’re going through
✔ The quiet isolation from friends and even family
✔ Slow or sudden decline in academic performance
✔ The disengagement from sports and hobbies
✔ The daily fights to come down for a meal
✔ The sudden outbursts of anger to a simple thing like “Why don’t you go to bed?”
I can help you.
My Understand – Talk – Act technique takes you step-by-step to understand first, talk second, and act last. Unlike other approaches this technique puts you on the same team as your child and doesn’t damage your relationship with them.
✔ Understand exactly what is going on in your child’s brain.
✔ Talk to your gamer using conversational scripts that have worked in real life.
✔ Act according to the plan you create through 16 guided worksheets.
Learn how to support your gamer.
Video games played to an extreme affects us on five dimensions:
✔ Physically: disrupted sleep, fatigue, weight gain/loss
✔ Mentally: stress, mood instability
✔ Socially: isolation from friends/family
✔ Emotionally: trouble expressing/regulating emotion
✔ Real World Success: decline in performance and motivation
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Hi, I’m Neven.
I’m also a gamer myself. In fact, my gaming almost caused me to fail out of university. Now, I’m living my dream by working as a staff member at a democratic school. This dream took me 4 years of hard work to finally achieve. Over the past 4 years I have worked with a lot of gamers and families to help them balance gaming and real life. With this coaching, you get years of professional experience put to work in an actionable programs anyone can use.
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The coaching works!
“I learned so much from Neven. He doesn’t just know about the art and the industry, he is a trained teacher so you know you’ll be in good hands.” – Zach
“Neven helped me slow down and actually view things from a different perspective – this was a game changer for me.” – Brandon
The Video Game Addiction Coaching Includes
A curriculum designed by a video-game-addict-turned-democratic-facilitator.
The literal words for when you don’t know what to say.
A Full Plan
16 practical, actionable, realistic steps for your family to regain control from video games.
Self-Paced Coaching Sessions
Choose the date and time that suits you.
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You are a good parent.
In fact, you probably work harder than most. We know first-hand this isn’t about fault or blame. It’s about the psychological sense of identity, community, and accomplishment people derive from video games. It’s about how nothing in “real life” provides the same level of excitement, empowerment and inclusion. That’s why understanding is so key, and why going deep into the psychology of gaming is so important.
Your gamer is smart.
In fact, your child is probably smarter than average. Gamers are shown in some studies to have higher IQ’s by 15 points on average. Gaming also can provide intellectual stimulation that smart kids crave. Many games involve high-level math, strategic thinking, and sociology built into them.
The Video Game Addiction Coaching is for:
✔ Parents of gamers ages 8-18 who see video games holding their child back
✔ Parents who have tried and failed to reshape their children’s gaming behaviors
✔ Parents who are exhausted and have “given up” trying to influence their children’s gaming habits
✔ Parents who want support, resources, or guidance in understanding, preventing, or encouraging recovery from video game addiction
✔ Parents who are overwhelmed with the gaming world (why is my child watching someone else play video games?!) and want expert guidance in understanding what gaming is and how it impacts their children
✔ Parents who might not have the time, energy, or resources for family counseling
Video Game Addiction Coaching is the best evidence-based psychiatric approach to video games. It uses my professional expertise and yearlong personal experiences and has the approval of pediatricians, psychiatrists, child psychologists and educators.
Remember, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. This program is on your terms – you control what you want to work through and when you work through it. You’ll have the support of other parents behind you. And, if it doesn’t work, you get your money back for the sessions you haven’t used, and the program gets stronger from your experience.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why are you more qualified than other people to do this?
I am a certified teacher and learning facilitator with over 4 years of professional experience working with children and gamers. Most importantly, I have personally experienced video game addiction – nearly getting flunking my engineering studies as a result – and managed to get my own gaming under control and into a teaching career. First-hand experience goes a long way in helping non-gamers develop empathy, which is critical for success. I now work with gamers of all kinds: professional gamers as well as younger gamers (with their families).
Is this therapy?
No, it’s better. It’s knowledge, empowerment and community support. We go quicker than week-to-week therapy and are much, much more affordable. Due to licensing restrictions, I can not be your doctor or psychiatrist through this program. Instead, I can be your guide and you will have access to my resources and the community of parents.
How long will this take?
The 4 coaching sessions are recommended to be spaced out in a month, once a week. To implement the knowledge can take 8-16 weeks, depending on the dynamics of your family and your gamer’s cooperation. The first 4 weeks of any behavior change (think about quitting caffeine, cutting carbs, or exercising every morning) are the hardest. Go easy on yourself and on your family. It is more about cultivating a healthy environment and a healthy balance than a sudden change in behavior.
Wouldn’t forcing my kid to quit video games altogether be better?
Good luck with that. Forcing someone to do something they don’t want to do is not usually a good idea, much less successful. If you cut out video games, you become the enemy. The coaching is grounded in the idea that getting control over your child’s gaming requires you both to be on the same team. You’re not the enemy, and neither are they. It’s easy to feel this way, but gaming is not inherently evil. Treating it as a purely negative influence in your child’s life means that you are missing the point. This is about balance and using the positive things about gaming for real-world success. My approach works for families, because gamers can embrace this kind of incremental change. Often, gamers themselves will start to prioritize time spent in real-world activities over gaming, which is the ultimate sign of them getting better.
Is this only for kids with video game addiction?
If gaming is causing a problem, it IS a problem. If video games are causing grades to go down, isolation from friends/family, or causing mood swings, we would say it is becoming problematic and should be addressed. Whether or not your child meets a clinical definition of video game addiction is less important than your parental instinct on whether or not video games will hold them back in life.
My child is over 18, will this still work?
Yes, if he/she is living at home. In fact, working with an older gamer may speed up the process.
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The Neven’s Guarantee
This coaching program is the best evidence-based psychiatric approach to finding a healthy balance between video games are real life.
You will follow an Understand – Talk – Act approach to effectively implement healthy boundaries and communication around video games. The implementation of the Act portion can take between 8 and 16 weeks, depending on your family dynamics.
Your relationship is the priority, so we will help you answer the questions you’ve been asking yourself:
✔ Why is it so hard to get him/her to come down to dinner?
✔ Why is he/she getting so mad?
✔ What could possibly be so interesting on that screen?
✔ Is there any real-world value to these games?
✔ How do I keep video games from taking over his/her life?
✔ How do I get him/her to cut down playing games and start focusing on real life?
Neven’s Promise to You:
If you are not satisfied with the coaching sessions, contact me and you will get refunded for the sessions you have not used.